Anonymous
I know it’s difficult but you can’t control whether she keeps contact with you. I know you think of her as your best friend, but a best friend would be there for you and treat you as their best friend, not anything less. It seems like you really have feelings for her but she doesn’t feel the same about you. She obviously doesn’t see what an amazing person you are and doesn’t realize what she’s missing to not have you. Try to keep up the conversation when you guys change schools, message her on Facebook or text her, but if she doesn’t answer that much, don’t push it. You will find someone else who cares about you and who is there for you when you need them, and she doesn’t seem like that person right now. -Megan
Anonymous
it was his mistake for leaving you. i can imagine how hard it would be to not be with someone after 8 months, but it was his choice to leave you. and it seems as though he is the kind of guy that likes to know you still want him. don’t give him that satisfaction, i know you still love him but you really need to distract yourself so that you can get over him. you have to believe me, i’ve been through it, and it DOES get better, you do get over it and stop thinking about it. it will take time, but please, see your friends, watch funny shows and listen to happy music, do anything to not think about him. -Megan
Anonymous
I know exactly what you feel like, I’m always scared of failure and being told that I’ve done something wrong. Thankfully, starting a job isn’t as scary as it seems! Try searching for a job that is run by a family friend or someone you know, and make sure the place you apply for is student friendly. Be confident and make sure you listen to the rules, and often you are able to get training which helps a lot. In the meantime, you could sell clothes and things on Ebay to give you financial independence from your Mum. Good luck, and I hope you find a job that you enjoy!
l0lita
Anonymous
confront him about it. there must be something going on that he’s acting so distant, maybe you’re doing something that you don’t realize is upsetting him, or something happened with his family or friends. ask if anything has happened recently or if he’s upset about something because you feel like he hasn’t been acting the same. that isn’t an excuse to ditch you though, he should be talking to you about these things -megan
Anonymous
Don’t ‘confront’ her, but just bring it up and be like ‘yeah so what’s up with that’? Make it so she has to be like ‘oh sorry I’ll stop’. Tell her ‘We’ve been friends for so long and I don’t want to risk anything that would make us stop being friends so can you please just not talk about my boyfriend’? See what I mean, bee too nice about it so she wont seem like you’r yelling at her or anything like that.
Anonymous
It’s not you’r fault. A person does not commit such an act because of a single person but because of an overwhelming amount of problems. I’m sure you’r father was a great person and loved you very much, but what he did was selfish. He made you and probably you mom or siblings feel the same way. But the truth is it probably had nothing to do with you. Don’t let his mistake affect you for the rest of you life. Remember him as the man he was, and forgive him for what he did, but just know you wern’t the reason why. I’m sure you won’t take what I’m saying seriously, because I’m just a 3rd person and I don’t know the whole story, but I’ve know people, people really close to me, who’ve gone through similar things and it does get better. Not in a day, not in a week and not in a year, but over time you will start to better understand what he went through, and you’ll realize how much you didn’t cause this.
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Anonymous
that must be so difficult for you to deal with. i’m so sorry. definitely keep talking to your parents, tell them about your friends having boyfriends. they need to realize that it’s okay to date. if they’re making you have an arranged marriage for religious reasons, then that makes things a lot harder. don’t be embarrassed to talk to your friends about it though. if you hold these feelings inside of you you will feel like you are going to explode. tell some of your close friends what situation you’re in, it will feel good to talk about it -Megan
Anonymous
Personalities shouldn’t determine whether you two are able to date or not. Most guys like a girl who isn’t afraid to speak her mind, and I’m sure that he’s no exception. Since you’re already a confident person, go for it! Strike up a conversation and get to know him better, because friends are more likely candidates for dating than strangers. Go after him and don’t worry what anyone thinks - it’s your happiness that you want! Good luck sweetheart <3
l0lita
